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Would you have thought that the most popular adventure "manual" in the world was written by a mother during her first months of anxiety during her first pregnancy?Heidi Murkoff (Photo: Fьlцp Mбtй) Heidi Murkoff is Legendary The author of this 9-month-long book, she has searched for her own queries and concerns, and has created her first number-one book for a pregnant woman; sunbeam, a shrewd conceit. In every word, it calms and enthuses. After talking to him, you feel what you are doing, what you are doing, everything is all right. No wonder the special maternity book is number one in our list of books for women. The second edition of the book has just been published in Hungarian, and we have talked to him on this subject.: By your own admission, your greatest motivation for writing your book was the non-urgent anxiety you felt during your first quest. What was it that you were most worried about?Heidi: There was no specific thing. I had a lot of fears and even more motos in my head. The thoughts and events that followed brought new and new doubts. Our first baby was a surprise baby, I wasn't prepared for it, and I had no idea what to expect. I didn't know if I could still drink it, or that the few glasses of wine I had ever consumed before I knew whether I was pregnant would have harmed the fetus? I had never felt sick in the morning, and since all my pregnant acquaintances complained about it, I was sure there was something wrong with me. I stumbled once on the edge of the foot and fell on my stomach. The doctors calmed me down, and I couldn't think of anything other than losing the baby. I didn't dare my doctor anymore, I didn't want to be called many times, I felt lonely. I was completely insecure. At the time, there was no literature that provided answers and reassurance. Heidi Murkoff (Photo: Fьlцp Mбtй) : You emphasize a lot about the importance of physical and mental preparation for pregnancy. You also dedicate a special section to the concept of conception and the creation of ideal conditions for it. Do you think that we are not always seriously losing the foundation of a family, and are not properly preparing our organization for a new life and relationship for such a significant change?Heidi: Unfortunately, there is not always enough emphasis on conception. Women and men are not clear about the ideal condition to be pursued for the health of the fetus. We do not lose sight of the influence of sleep deprivation, overweight, stress, smoking, alcohol, or even excessive caffeine consumption. I learned in my own nightmare that the pregnancy really had to be planned. All the factors must be taken into account in order to have a healthy and relaxed pregnancy.: Of course, preparation must not only be physical, we must also be prepared in our minds for a life-long adventure. Family-based dating is not a one-man mission, and it is not uncommon for you to completely test your relationship. It is very common for couples to disappear from one another after the first childbirth, even after a few months, or even a couple of years. The importance of intimacy during pregnancy and the subsequent period with young children will often appear in your book. What do you think is the key to a man and a man being successful in his place besides the role of a parent?Heidi: I think the biggest problem is, after the baby's birth, we somehow automatically push our relationship back. It all starts here. However, a healthy child needs not only nutrition, but also plenty of love and a safe, loving environment. It is extremely important to pay attention to our relationship, to find those moments when we look at each other. And here I am not only thinking about sex - of course it is also very important - but also about intimate, intimate moments. This love created the little life and a loving environment that best nourishes it.It is important to have a touch, to have a close relationship, to have eye contact, to communicate, to do things around the child and to have as early as possible Also rediscovering. If I could give couples advice, I would recommend eliminating cell phones in the middle of the day, whether with each other or with a child. Mobile phones are the biggest killer of connection today. We will not miss fall as the best moments of the toddler run away, and by the time we look at our phone, it will be exhausted.: I liked the book very much that it focuses on the role of fathers, involves them in the process, and looks at active part. How do you see the role of dads in pregnancy and parenting in the past 30 years?Heidi Murkoff (Photo: Fьlцp Mбtй)Heidi: The role of the father is crucial to the health of children in their physical and mental development. The role of fathers is still under considerable social pressure, and unfortunately it is changing very slowly. But just as nobody gives birth to a mother - but they believe it - so a father can be any male who is willing to put in enough time and energy. For example, my boyfriend was brilliantly wrong in the initial period, and he handled superficial situations countless times when I was just plain lacking. For example, she was the only one who could calm down our baby and successfully rock her. Men should not be afraid of fatherhood, and women should be careful not to suppress men. Mothers should not be exclusively involved in all child-related activities, as this would also deprive the father of the opportunity to "learn" certain processes. Let go of old traditions and parenting, and not just women. Let the little boys play with the babies too, without the sensibility, the expression of feelings, and involve them in their homework. Even more important, however, is that fathers also come up with a positive example. Little boys expect their dad to take part in their upbringing, nurturing, and not just being a kind of outsider. This is the only way to break the circle.: What do you think needs to change drastically to give women a more positive, full-fledged experience?Heidi: Parenting aside humiliation, I emphasize the traumatic nature of the parenting process. Unfortunately, all over the world, I see women very often being involved in rough sex, both during pregnancy and during childbirth, both physically and physically. Doctors do not take into account the requests and feedback of parents. Women do not receive sufficient information about the process or their status. We have almost no involvement in medical decisions. In America, for example, it has recently been echoed that Serena Williams nearly died of postpartum complications. Hesitant, he even knew he was in trouble - since he had had thrombosis in the past - and doctors and doctors didn't take tennis tennis seriously in the first place. This is not a unique case, unfortunately it happens many times. The development and dissemination of a more positive maternal-centered approach to maternal care would be key.: If you are afraid of change ... Being a mother and a successful author, you are also a business-savvy person, and through your The To Expect Project, you are constantly helping your What was the most heartfelt case you have encountered in your humanitarian work so far?HEIDI: It's awful to say, but unfortunately, even in the 21st century, a mother dies in childbirth. This is true for developing nations cumulatively. With our foundation, we are constantly striving to ensure that pregnancy care and safe birth are available to women in such countries. More than once, we have visited a number of drone or cavernous areas where conditions are frighteningly bad. The most shocking thing for me was when we visited a midwifery clinic during our visit to South Sudan. The South Sudan Civil War Zone, since then, this clinic has been evacuated, but most strikingly, according to statistics, 1 in 9 women die in childbirth. When I say clinic, forget everything It didn't mean as much as an old building where conductive water, some hand-disinfected, and a wooden stethoscope to control the sound of the fetus were available. These "clinic" nurses have been trained. I talked to many of them, and almost all of them chose this profession because of personal motivation, one of the family members who were pregnant, or a relative who was lost in birth. During my visit, a pregnant woman walked into the clinic, apparently in the midst of enormous pain, clinging to one of her hurried births with the utmost power. As it turned out, she had traveled more than 24 kilometers to get help. It turned out that the baby was in the opposite position and without help, both mother and child would have died in childbirth. However, the parents who took part in the training successfully turned their hands around a little by hand and were able to give birth - even in the face of great hardships. Because of the complications, the mother was observed for 24 hours and then returned home with her newborn baby the next day. I will never forget this condition, it still works for me. For me, any mother is like my sister, as if we were a kind of brotherly bond. I have been working so hard on newer and newer editions of my book to bring thousands of desperate, anxious moms to rest in the horrorous months of worry.
If you want to know more about Heidi Murkoff, check it out on Facebook and Instan! You can order the latest issue of the 9 Months Book from Alexandra Publisher.Related articles:
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